what i can....

I can give you life,
but cannot live it for you.

I can give you directions,
but I cannot be there to lead you.

I can take you to church,
but I cannot make you believe.

I can teach you right from wrong,
but I cannot always decide for you.

I can buy you beautiful clothes,
but I cannot make you beautiful inside.

I can offer you advice,
but I cannot accept it for you.

I can give you love,
but I cannot force it upon you.

I can teach you to share,
but I cannot make you unselfish.

I can teach you respect,
but I cannot force you to show honor.

I can advise you about friends,
but cannot choose them for you.

I can tell you about alcohol & drugs,
but I can't say "No" for you.

I can tell you about lofty goals,
but I can't achieve them for you.

I can teach you about kindness,
but I can't force you to be gracious

I can pray for you,
but I cannot make you walk with God.

I can tell you how to live,
but I cannot give you eternal life.

I can love you with unconditional love all of
my life... and I will.

life's little instructions....

• Have a firm handshake.
• Look people in the eye.
• Sing in the shower.
• Own a great stereo system.
• If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
• Keep secrets.
• Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
• Always accept an outstretched hand.
• Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
• Whistle.
• Avoid sarcastic remarks.
• Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
• Make it a habit to do nice things f! or people who will never find out.
• Lend only those books you never care to see again.
• Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
• When playing games with children, let them win.
• Give people a second chance, but not a third.
• Be romantic.
• Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
• Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
• Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the caller's.
• Be a good loser.
• Be a good winner.
• Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
• When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
• Be modest. A lot was accomplished before! you were born.
• Keep it simple.
• Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
• Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
• Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets
• Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the one's you did.
• Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
• Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
• Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
• Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
• Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
• Once in a while, take the scenic route.
• Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.'
• Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
• Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
• Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job
• Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
• Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
• Become someone's hero.
• Marry only for love.
• Count your blessings.
• Compliment the meal when ! you're a guest in someone's home.
• Wave at the children on a school bus.
• Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
• Don't expect life to be fair.

Lawyer's Joke

How can you tell when a lawyer is lying?
His lips are moving.

How do you get a group of lawyers to smile for a picture?
Just say "Fees!"

"You seem to be in some distress," said the kindly judge to the witness. "Is anything the matter?"

"Well, your Honour," said the witness, "I swore to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, but every time I try, some lawyer objects."

A new client had just come in to see a famous lawyer.
"Can you tell me how much you charge?", said the client.
"Of course", the lawyer replied, "I charge $200 to answer three questions!"
"Well that's a bit steep, isn't it?"
"Yes it is", said the lawyer, "And what's your third question?"

Develop your personality...

Personality of a person establishes him/her, loses his/her identity.
Following are the few tips to develop your personality.

• Try to listen and understand others. Don’t always take it for granted, that your thinking is right. Let your decision be final but there should be enough scope for flexibility in it, depending upon the situation.
• Develop mutual trust which draws others towards you.
• Keep balance between thinking and expression. Think well before you speak out.
• Don’t impose your ideas on others and don’t try to show that others are inferior.
• Don’t praise yourself. If you have talent it will be definitely respected.
• Trust your mortality. As you know truth always wins. Try to mould your nature accordingly.
• Try to love others, and then only you will be loved by others.
• Be patient, because it develops your personality.
• Keep doing your work without being impatient for the result.
• Avoid unnecessary discussions. Don’t try to involve yourself on others affairs. It is a bad habit.
• Try to extract eternal satisfaction through your work. Always don’t expect fame and money by doing your work.
• Get respect through respecting others .don’t force others to respect you. Win their respect through your work.
• Try to learn through out your life. Accept and cultivate good qualities from others.

Ways to develop...

1. If you want to progress in life then honestly analyze the traits of your character.
2. Do not laugh at people when they are in difficulty or trouble otherwise you will loose your personality in a moment.
3. This is a great way to develop your personality by listing everyone politely even if their ideas are baseless or not of your use.
4. During conversation do not keep talking yourself too much.
5. Whenever somebody brings any gift for you, don’t forget to praise it. It does not matter even if you were expecting something else.
6. Make other feel that you love them.
7. Keep your moral high in case of defeat and be more polite on being victorious.
8. Solve your problems in a creative way. Try your best not to let these spoil your relations with your friends.
9. Enlist your bad habits and try to get rid of them.
10. Try to remove the feeling of inferiority in others by loving them and by keeping good behavior towards them.
11. Be careful of what you say about others because others will say the same thing about us of different times and at different places and in this way it became a public opinion about us.
12. Some people often have a favorite sentence or line which they repeat frequently .we should try and get rid of such a habit.
13. Independence increases our good qualities, personality and slavery bad qualities.
14. Independent thinking and freedom to work is the only source of progress and welfare.
15. Positive attitude is of great importance in our personality. No body like people who have narrowed out look.
16. The real beauty of men lies not in his physical appearance but in his work and good qualities.
17. Every individual should develop the ability to adjust with others.

Seven Life Lessions

Seven Life Lessons

You don't need to travel hundreds of miles or spend thousands of dollars to find a great life coach. In fact, you can find some of the best life coaches in the world much closer to home than you may think…

Who are these expert life coaches?
The expert life coaches I'm talking about are - Children!

Children come into the world with a positive 'can-do' mindset that we as adults can learn a lot from. In this edition of Dare to Dream I'd like to share with you seven important life lessons,I've learnt from children.

(1) Live In the Moment

It never ceases to amaze me how quickly children can make the transition from being upset to being happy. Underlying these instantaneous mood swings is the ability to truly live in the moment. Children don't spend hours reflecting on the past or worrying about the future. They live life as it happens. As adults we often carry emotional baggage from our previous experiences as well as fears for our future. It's little wonder that we struggle to enjoy each moment simply for what it is.

Life Lesson #1
Stop analyzing the past and worrying about the future and choose to live in the moment.

(2) Give You Time to Learn

To put myself through University, I used to teach the clarinet and saxophone to students of all ages. One of the major differences between my young students and my adult students was that the children gave themselves time to learn. When they made a mistake, they simply laughed and moved on. The adult students on the other hand, often got worried and frustrated by their mistakes and berated themselves for not being perfect. Children understand that it takes time to become good at something and they know that making mistakes is part of the learning process.

Life Lesson #2

When you are learning a new skill or activity, give yourself time to learn. Try not to get worried or frustrated when you make mistakes, instead, try and see the humor in the situation and enjoy the journey.

(3) Believe Anything Is Possible

This is an area in which children easily out do most adults. Children truly believe that anything is possible and they seem to naturally understand that belief is the secret ingredient for achieving success in every area of your life.

Life Lesson #3
Believe in your dreams with a ‘Child Like’ faith

(4) Laugh Out Loud

One of the things children enjoy more than anything else is to laugh and giggle. Some of my happiest memories are of laughing to the point of tears with my nephews over some silly incident or comment. For some reason, as we grow older we seem to repress our sense of fun in preference for something called 'maturity'. Personally, I would much rather laugh out loud!

Life Lesson #4
Seize every opportunity you get to laugh out loud.

(5) Don't Be Afraid To Love

Children are much more likely to say, "I love you" than most adults. They do not think about or analyze the long term consequences of making this statement. When they feel a sense of love for someone, they simply let them know.

Life Lesson #5
When you love someone, let them know.

(6) Forgive Quickly and Completely

Children rarely carry a grudge for very long. They may get angry or upset but when they forgive someone, they do it quickly and completely. Adults on the other hand are quite capable of carrying a grudge for many years and even when they do forgive someone, it is often a case of, "I'll forgive but I'll never forget!"

Life Lesson #6
If you’re carrying a grudge – let it go and move on. A grudge gets heavier the longer you carry it.

(7) Never Lose Your Sense of Wonder

Children don't take the world around them for granted. They possess a wonderful sense of curiosity and fun. A few weeks ago I was in a park with my nephew David. I was chasing him around an oak tree and each time I changed direction and caught him, he burst into a fit of giggles. Eventually we collapsed on the ground and looked up at the sunlight sparkling through the leaves. As I lay on the ground, I reached over and picked up an acorn and said, "David, did you know that this big tree grew from a little seed like this?"My nephew thought about this for a moment and then his eyes widened and he asked, “How?" I looked at the acorn in my hand and then up at the huge tree above us and the amazement that my nephew had shown suddenly hit me too!

Life Lesson #7

Take the time to stop and look at the world around you through the eyes of a child. It really is an amazing place! Action Steps: This week, take a break from the pressures of being an adult and use the seven life lessons above to reconnect with your inner child.